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Love and Relationships

Will The Real Men Please Stand Up?

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Posted by: Lyman Cox on Friday, December 16, 2011

Will the real men please stand up? You would think that after all the pain that women have endured for decades and praying to God hoping that their man would change and be the man she wants, their prayers would have been answered. It is like counter-praying.  Why pray if God keeps creating the same man over and over again.

When I say real men, this applies to the single men, married men, and the down low men. Throw away the representative and let women meet the real you. Why? I’m tired of having to break through this emotional brick wall that women have put up after dating a guy like you.  When men use the term “I got game” when it comes to women, I wonder what they men mean. “I got game” to me is like finding out what excites a woman and you fulfill that excitement until she reaches the peak of ecstasy. She is like a piece of clay and you get to mold her the way you like.  Guys who have swag understand exactly what I mean, popping bottles, shopping sprees, 5-star living, wining and dining, retreats to the beach, etc. Women love this fantasy and men use this to lure women in, whether it is for sex, to buy him gifts, etc.

Now to the guy with no game, all of that is too much to spend on a woman. He wants something for nothing. Now that is the game of all game, get something for nothing. Wow!!  Now that’s the guy who looks like a baller, but he is really balling on a budget and so many women pick this type of guy too. I call him “007 James Bond” fantasy guy. He works at such and such, he lives in a 5-bedroom house, make six figures or close to it, and drive a Benz. Women are known to fall for that lie, or something similar. They are on the case like the feds after a solid lead. But to be honest, a guy like that gets mad props from the men, and he leaves women broken hearted and angry. The next guy would have to a have a passport and security clearance to get into her heart again.

To all my single men, get real! News flash to all single guys, it COST money to date a decent woman. Quit playing! Dating a woman is like starting a business, so expect a start up cost.  But be wise and watch your ROI. That means make sure you are getting a good return on what you are investing. I have dated women long enough to know that some women have different taste. Some women like restaurants with a nice ambience and some don’t need all of that. If you can’t afford her pull over get out and let her “keep it moving”. Simply put, stay in your financial lane if you are broke, don’t have a car, live at home with your mom or stay with your boy, or whatever. Really, you shouldn’t be trying to date anyway, but if that is your situation, just admit it. There are too many women out here looking for a man. Who knows, you tell the truth she could help your situation. Some woman will dust you off and take you in, but you must be striving to do better, none of that racist crap about the white man keeping you down, we are all struggling.

To all Married men, MAN UP when it comes to your relationship. It should be 50/50 and if you can do more, then please do so. This applies to paying bills, household chores, taking care of the kids, and treating your spouse the way you would want to be treated. If you can pay most of the bills then do so. I think a man should do that, but if you can’t then at least be 50/50. If a man is not pulling his own weight or more, there is a 90 percent chance that he is going to have problems in his relationship. Finances have been one of the leading killers of relationships, so men get your hustle on.

When it comes to household chores, married men, quit playing. You know how to do household chores. If you grew up with a black mom, you did some cleaning and a little cooking or something in the kitchen, quit playing. You know how to sort, wash, dry and fold clothes. If your mom did not show you, then I know your grandmother damn sure did. Also, some guys know how to hang clothes, clean toilets, and vacuum too. Ladies need to hold you responsible or make her man pay to have the house cleaned. Now that will keep a smile on your woman’s face. Now, when it comes to the kids, man up, your woman should be able to leave the house without the kids. This is not the time to go into cardiac arrest, begin panicking and calling her cell phone every 10 minutes. Also, take the time to learn how to fix bottles by watching how your woman does it. Learn how to give your kids a bath and put them to bed, change diapers, check for fever, and wake up in the middle of the night and tend to the crying baby. I’m tired of hearing married women complain about how you lay in bed while she is the one who wakes up every morning and get herself and the kids ready. Married men Wake up!!!!!!!

Now for you down-low men, please stay in your lane. I oten wonder how could a man live with a woman and she not know her man is gay or bisexual. This is life threatening to the community because HIV is spreading rampantly. Talking about skeletons in the closet, try a graveyard with a wolf on top of a dirt pile howling at the moon. This is out right scary, especially when you think about the times you have had unprotected sex. And just think about the cool guys who went to jail and now they are out in the general public. Now I’m sure you have heard the term “tossing salad” when it comes to prison life. These are same cool guys who get out claiming they didn’t toss any salad and they didn’t get tossed either. Now that the down low guy exists, ladies please be careful, and heterosexual men be careful too. This guy is the modern day Jack the Ripper to women.

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